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September 14, 2010 — Leave a comment

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Yesterday marked a serious step into bi-vocational ministry for me.  I was able to get a four-to-six week temp position as a ‘personal care aide’ in a local facility for transitioning special needs students from high school to the ‘real world’ and yesterday was day-one for me assigned to a specific (and awesome!) student.

There are a number of reasons why this could be tough: I’m not sure I have the ‘makeup’ of someone who can successfully work a number of jobs, especially when one of them is of the consuming nature of church planting; I have a couple of health issues that mean exhaustion sets in easily; I’m going to be a new dad very soon and need to/want to be present with my family.  I may get to the end of this first stint at bi-vocationalism and realize I need to find a different, creative solution to our need, and I don’t think that would be shameful or out of place.

But there are also a number of reasons why this has the potential to be something really great:

  • Money: With some of our supporting churches not-yet sending in their promised amounts, and the uphill trek we’ve had to raising funding from individual and group sources, our personal support is running low.  Money helps us do things like eat and pay rent, both of which are awesome.
  • Delegation: working an additional job or two forces me to identify the things I’m doing that someone else should be doing because they can do them better and probably find more joy in them than I do.  Over the next few weeks, I’m going to have to be more intentional about giving ministry away–and that really, really excites me, not because of what will be off my plate but because it means raising other people up.
  • The future: if I can learn to hit my stride now as a bi-vocational church planting freelancer (:-)) while being a new dad trying to juggle life, ministry, and all the rest, it means I can develop a discipline that will allow me to keep working an additional job while planting The Bridge2.0–and that means more money for ministry/outreach in new ventures.

So, we’ll see how this next season of life goes, whether wildly successful or chalked up with ‘life lessons learned the hard way,’ I’m excited to see what God does.

Women!

October 10, 2009 — Leave a comment

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As stated yesterday, now that I’ve been married for three years (and a few days), I can be seen as something of an expert when it comes to marriage… and, I believe, women in general.

Here’s everything I’ve learned about women:

Love them.

That is all.

Marital Counsel

October 9, 2009 — Leave a comment

Now that I’ve had three ‘successful’ years as a husband, I feel justified in sharing unsolicited advice with the world about marriage.

Ready?

Here it goes:

Every marriage is different.

While there are certain principles within Scripture and common sense ground rules that should inform our marriages, people are different and every individual marriage is unique.

That doesn’t mean we should never seek coaching and counsel, but I think it helps us understand the kind of coaching and counsel we should seek.  If our marriage mentors or counselors are sharing ‘what works’ only from personal experience it should cause us to pause—what ‘worked’ for them may not work for everybody… but someone who helps to see the joy of Christ as the foundation of marriage and who can help work through the tough stuff of life without saying, “This is exactly what you need to do.” is someone who understands the unique nature of individual relationships.

And that’s my unsolicited advice for the day.

Check back tomorrow when I share what three years of marriage has taught me about women.

Wait for it…

June 19, 2009 — Leave a comment

“Good things come in small packages.”

“Fish and guests both stink after three days.”

“Subprime mortgages are evil.”

“Patience is a virtue.”

Each of these expressions has some level of truth–some more than others (and some are more ‘old addages’ than others), but the sentiments expressed within them have an air of “I-learned-this-the-hard-way-so-pay-attention.”  But the one that has always irritated me most is ‘Patience is a virtue.’  Admittedly, that’s because patience is a virtue that can only be learned by waiting… by trusting… by hoping…

Sarah and I have been waiting.

We’ve cried out to heaven for some sense of ‘what’s next?’ and the answer seems to have been, ‘Wait for it.’

Sunday will be my last day as pastor at Carlisle Wesleyan.  And after that?  We dunno.  We’re waiting.

I wish patience was a gift given at the beginning of life.  But my guess is: it’s a virtue earned throughout life.

Great.

Dead.

April 8, 2009 — 1 Comment

I thought I had killed it. Totally ruined.  Destroyed.

I had well completed a myriad of tasks during the many, many childhood summers spent in southeastern Arizona with my grandparents and the twenty acres of desert land they cared for.  We had dug ditches, run irrigation, kept the field grasses short (so snakes would be kept at bay), cared for animals of varying types, tore old buildings down, painted the ones still standing, and trimmed a lot of mesquite trees.

mesquite-thorns-paul-garland-flickrHave you ever trimmed a mesquite tree?  For those of you who haven’t, a brief word of explanation:  Mesquite trees aren’t really ‘trees’ at all, they’re bushes.  In order to make them look like trees, they need constant attention.  They are thorny… really thorny—huge, long, deep-penetrating thorns (see inset)—and gnarly.  After years of practice, though, I felt I had become a master mesquite tree trimmer.

On this particular day, the one tree I had to get done was the lone mesquite in the small back yard my grandparents had fenced off from the rest of their land.  Every “unnecessary” limb, twig, shoot, and leaf was calculatingly severed.  I was in a tree-trimming trance.  Up close, I could see every part that “needed” cutting; an extra little bit here, a corrective measure there. When I finally stepped back, I was in shock—where there used to be a full-looking arboreal treasure now stood a stark, naked shuck of sticks protruding out of the ground.  I really thought I had killed the tree.  Worse yet: there was no hiding the carnage—the kitchen window looked right out onto that place where once had stood a thing of rugged beauty.

My Gram surprised me with her grace and understanding.  She told me not to worry—that by so radically cutting back a mesquite, it was given opportunity to re-form and come back more beautiful than before.

Yeah.

Right.

Each day for the rest of that summer, I would look at the tree as I passed by… and I couldn’t see any evidence of life or hope for the poor thing.

Well, Grandmas are usually right and this time wasn’t an exception.  The potential of the mesquite isn’t in what you can see—the tallest they get is around 30 feet high.  Their strength is in their roots, which dig deep: some say around 175 feet for an older tree.  Over the next few years, this particular tree rebounded.  Not as quickly as it took me to ‘destroy’ her, but she came back fuller, greener, more vibrant than all but one other mesquite in the place.

The other beautiful tree?

One my uncle had “killed” years before I was conceived.

This has me thinking about some of the hardship we experience in life.  Aspects of who we are or what we do—our churches, our families, our relationships—that simply seem dead.   What we can see looks nothing like what we think should exist; parts of us have been cut back and to have hope is a ridiculous notion.  Sometimes we’re to blame for what has happened, just like me with that thorny tree.  But often we can see the hand of a loving God calling forth life; and where hope was seemingly exterminated, something vibrant comes.

The re-birth takes time… it’s not as fast as the destruction, but rebuilding and replanting never takes place as quickly as uprooting and tearing down. Look beyond what is missing and see if there, where you least expect it, God is at work doing a new thing.

What is ‘dead’ in your life right now?  What have you endured, maybe even as the result of your own hand at work, that seems too painful and needless to be of any good?  Are you firmly rooted in the soil of God’s love and faith in his Son?  If so, especially in this Resurrection season, we must be looking for the signs of life—after all, ours is the King who offers abundant life and conquers death.  He is the God who gives life to the dead and calls into being things that were not (Romans 4:17, TNIV).